Warning: this opinion is about rape
Hello, tumblr. My name is Jack. I’m 17 years old. As you can tell by my name, I’m a guy. And last year, I was raped by my older male neighbor. I’d put my tumblr URL here, but I’ve received some disturbing and frankly borderline triggering messages in regards to my rape, so I’d rather not risk it. I hope you understand.
When I first went through my rape, all the supportive posts on tumblr about male rape victims was very comforting. I’m glad people acknowledged that guys could be raped and that they matter.
I eventually had much more bitter feelings towards these posts when I noticed a certain trend with them: almost all of them belittled female rape victims in some way.
Just because someone is talking about girls/women getting raped doesn’t mean you need to derail it with “guys get raped too!”. As long as nobody is denying that fact, it’s unnecessary. Not every conversation about rape has to include all demographics of rape victims. There can be posts about male rape victims only, and there can also be posts about female rape victims only.
It seems like people also act like female rape victims have it soooo easy and should just shut the fuck up, because male rape victims have it harder. A lot of women in my life including my friends and my sister have been raped, and it isn’t any easier for them. They still are told they deserved it, not given the legal attention they deserve, and accused of being liars and bitter sluts. That doesn’t sound easy to me. Male rape victims deal with a unique stigma as well (as in, some people don’t even believe we can get raped, which sucks) but that doesn’t mean it’s much easier for the ladies.
And another thing, why can’t tumblr have one nice photoset or post about male rape victims without some dumbass commenting “Because they’re men, nobody will care” or “This won’t get nearly as many notes as the female version”? Uh, shut the fuck up? You’re ruining the powerful message behind the post. And also, rape isn’t a fucking contest.
This not only pisses me off because I care about women and female rape victims, but it also pisses me off because I get the impression these people don’t actually give a shit about male rape victims at all. They only seem to use us as a prop in arguments to derail discussions of feminism, female victims, etc. by using a vulnerable group who has been through a horrible trauma. How sick is that?
While it’s important to spread awareness of other types of rapes besides male on female, there’s way to do so without derailing or talking over other victims.
So, as a tl;dr to this opinion: if the only time you talk about male rape victims is in some way to downplay or belittle women getting raped, then fuck you. You are a piece of shit, nothing more.
We deserve to be mentioned in our own posts rather than in derailment, and women who have been deserve a chance to talk about their experience without someone derailing saying men can get raped too when nobody was denying that fact. Fuck. You.
Wish I could do something to help you along your way, Jack. You sound like a great person. If more were like you, this world would be so much better off.
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reblogging this again because this shit is 50$
KNOWN RAPIST Mike Mikkelson has been spotted hanging around #Ferguson. Mikkelson has previously been banned from the Occupy KC camp. Keep yourself safe, and do not let this individual into your community.
If you live anywhere near Evansville Indiana please be safe because apparently 10 women have been abducted and now they’re saying it’s a possible serial killer sO please don’t go anywhere alone
SIGNAL BOOSTING THE SHIT OUT OF THIS BECAUSE I HAVE FAMILY THERE
Reblogging again. Ladies, be safe.
I thought going to college would make me miss him less but tbh I just miss him more than ever.
Also I met some people and I thought they were cool but they made really fucking racist comments and joked about Robin Williams. They said it was okay because he committed suicide. Like wtf?? And this is my roommate too. Although i hung out with marc and his friend and they invited me to go out to eat with them so thats a plus.
Things are just so complicated right now and its taking all my strength not to text him. I know he cares but he just needs time. He needs to sort out what happened and his feelings before we can be friends.
Newborn baby stuns doctors by holding her own bottle (in the UK)
A baby girl has amazed doctors with her ability to hold her own feeding bottle. Two-week-old Ammra was able to grasp her bottle alone just three days after she was born at Queen’s Hospital, Romford in Essex, her mother Onyi Chiedozie said.The 20-year-old, who is using a combination of breast and bottle feeding, said doctors and nurses were stunned by the baby’s ability to master her strong grip so soon after she was born.
she hungry, she ain’t got time to wait for y’all to hold her bottle.
holy shit lol
I think homeschooling is fine! It has pros and cons just like everything else. I think its a better way to eduacte people because there isnt pressure from the school and or other students. Altho uh b my friend was homeschooled and she has trouble integrating into public school.
Im going to bed early because i drove all 4 hours. Everyone else is out and attempting to find parties but 1) I dont wanna be THAT freshman that tries to party straight away. And 2) I almost fell asleep on my friends couch watching adventure time so.
i have been seeing a lot of different links for different places to donate for bail and legal fees, but i haven’t been able to find anything on whether or not the funds have actually been going towards helping out the people of ferguson so
if you know of any more please add and spread them and if in doubt remember to google first